Recently it has been brought to my attention that my blogs are "very negative". I find this assessment interesting for several reasons as I will explain below.
First, this comment was made by an individual who does not know me, we have never been formally introduced yet we are aware of each others existence. What I find interesting is that this individual sought me out and their motives were not 'honorable'. It was an information gathering exercise on their part to possibly hurt another individual by insinuating that my blogs were negative or in their words "very negative". This backfired because the other individual knows me quite well and knows that my blog is not written with malice.
That being said, I do have some rants in my blog, and they are strictly personal opinion. For example F.U.Cancer was written after loosing a friend to her fight against the horrible decease and if I came across as negative then so be it. I also talk about my concerns about my son and why. Some of my blogs are intended to add a different perspective on a variety of situations. Some are intended to give insight into who I am and what I'm about. In fact I have a couple of blogs on looking at things from a more positive perspective, ie; "Spin It Positive, Baby". So why would someone see only negativity in my blogs? Well, I'll tell you.
Maybe that's all they see in their lives. This individual, when I heard of their misguided opinion of my blog was described to me as a very negative person, so I deduced that if you spend your day wallowing in negativity then that's all you will see. It's about choice, you can choose either or. I am a Sagittarius, a very common personality trait for most Sadges is the uncanny ability to see the world through rose coloured glasses. I embrace this trait whole heartily. I don't watch the news because it generally portrays this wonderful world in which we live, in a negative light. They don't start out with "good news, we have nothing bad to report", that never happens, it wouldn't be news otherwise.
I have told my daughter who at times has a negative attitude that she has a choice. That being negative all the time will eventually make her a miserable person no one will want to be around, whereas, if she were positive and upbeat the world will seem a much better place and people will want to be around you because your positive energy will make them feel better about themselves. It's a proven fact that positive people are happy people and I dare anyone to challenge that statement.
I feel bad for the individual who passed judgement on me without knowing me, really is it there place? Is it any one's? I truly hope they find happiness but from what I've been told this may be an impossible task for them to achieve. I know that the other individual who is involved in this situation is questioning their ability to assess character and with all my assurance their doubt remains, so I'll do what I can to help this person find the positive in the situation and to accept that they have done nothing wrong. Their character is intact and the other individual was bent on destruction.
Another interesting thought on this that might explain the catalyst that drove the individual to seek me out is jealousy. You see I have a close friendship with the "other" individual and while this relationship was accepted in the beginning it became a weapon. This was briefly discussed and determined that there does seem to be a pattern, that the relationship we have can cause issues after a time. The problem is, neither of us are willing to end our relationship because of outside influence. Friendship is friendship and that's a rare gift. It's sad when it causes jealousy but that's not our problem it's theirs. I will not compromise a longtime friendship for a complete stranger. If my friend requires that our relationship change as the result of said stranger than that's different and will be difficult to adjust but I will respect the request and the reason if valid.
I know I'm not a negative person, I know what negativity can do to people, I have worked very hard through so much to maintain a positive attitude. Do I falter, absolutely, but I would never show it. I get my perspective back quickly and put on my rose coloured glasses and all is well with the world. You don't read The Secret as many times as I did and still have a negative attitude, it's impossible. You don't put years of effort developing your own personal spirituality and remain negative, again, impossible.
If I ever had the opportunity to speak with the individual who prompted this particular blog I would ask them one question. "How can you judge me when you know nothing about me?" Of course I'm being a hypocryt aren't I? Am I imparting my judgement that this person is negative, not exactly, go back and re-read from the begining, I am very careful in my wording, I have no idea as to this person's true character, I'm just basing my opionion of why they would comment on my blog from what I have been told. I do have only one side of this story, but that's enough for me. If the other side has been misinterpreted then I will recind my previous comments, otherwise they stand as is. I have far more faith in my friends than in strangers and even less in strangers who pass judgement not only on me but anyone based on what they read in a personal blog. Shame on them.
In future, I am going to try much harder to be more positive in my blogs but there will be times when I need to vent and this is where I choose to do just that. If you don't like what you are reading you have the choice to stop, I can't force you to continue. This blog is a forum for my personal thoughts and perspective. I'm not going to stop writing because I fear what individuals may think of me but be warned if I find out that my blog is being used as a weapon, I will blog about it and give my take on the situation. This is my blog, not something I'm asking for censorship of. If anyone reading this does so with a closed mind, that's not my problem, so don't make it my problem, it's greatly unappreciated. OK so that was a little negative, but I think I'm aloud to defend myself aren't I?
It is my sincere hope that said individual reads this so they will know that their critique of my blog has been discussed and it is determined that the reason for the critique was done so out of malice yet with little effect except this rebuttal and my perspective of the situation on the whole, gratefully this individual is now and will remain an unfortunate occurrence, nothing more.
With much love, light and a positive attitude.
Tammy.
