We all know that person, the one who says one thing then does another. Why do we care? Because that person is usually hurting those around them and in some cases there are mutual someones who we can't bare to see hurt. Sometimes unauthentic people do this knowingly, sometimes unknowingly. This is my random thought today...bare with me as I wrap my brain around this one.
So, as I was saying, we all know someone who is "unauthentic". That individual who is not true to their own character, personality or spirit. They are the posers the drama kings and queens who love to let us know how down and out they are yet their actions are not indicative of the situation they vehemently claim. I like to call them sympathy mongers. We are all guilty of seeking sympathy, but for these individuals it's a way of life.
People like this are exhausting for those of us who see through them. As someone who deals with an unauthentic person I can tell you it's emotionally, mentally and physically taxing. It's infuriating to know someone so well and watch them portray to the rest of the world a false image of them self. How do you deal with this?
You can do one of two things, confront them or ignore them. I do the latter. Why? Because I don't like confrontation and generally speaking these unauthentic individuals usually have a great defense and argument. They are incapable of seeing another's point of view because in their opinion they are right therefore you can't be. They are justified and they have a great excuse for why they do what they do...it's usually someone else's fault.
If you choose to ignore it as I'm finding out, you can end up making yourself crazy trying to NOT obsess about what it is you've witnessed. This is not healthy, what is healthy is distancing yourself from said individual and letting go of the mental hold their behaviour has on you. You need to clean house. But what if cleaning house causes more problems than just putting up with it? What if severing ties will hurt someone else? What do you do then?
Well you do what you know is best for the people who really matter to you. You bite your tongue, bow your head and pray the situation changes...fast. I will not risk destroying someone else because I am tired of dealing with an unauthentic individual. In the end they will get what they deserve. The thing is they will likely turn it around and somehow come off looking like the pathetic victim they constantly claim to be. They are FAR from the victim, they are for lack of a better word, bullies. They can bully subtly or they can just be down right nasty. I've experienced both.
One thing to remember, DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD HAVE DONE UNTO YOU! Simple. Your thoughts and actions are reflected back on you so if you are nasty you're gonna get nasty back, even if you do it with a smile on your face...you are unauthentic the universe knows this. Oh and by the way they are the first to advertise just how authentic they are...just in case you might wonder. And why would we question, unless of course there is a fragment of doubt. They know they are false, they just want to make sure you never figure it out.
The world if full of unauthentic people, luckily they are still out numbered. For every one unauthentic person I know, I know at least 100 authentic people (this is just a guesstimate) I would like to think we are all authentic, but I know for a fact this is not the case. I just wish I had the ability to make these unauthentic individuals see exactly how nasty and hurtful they really are. Maybe in my next life.
With much love, light and as much authenticity as I can muster,
Tammy.
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