Mother's Day

My first mother's day should have been May 11, 1997 but because my daughter was only two months old she was incapable of making me something or going out an buying a gift and a card. 

I had hoped her dad would have done that for her but you see, I'm not HIS mother so why should he?  This was the excuse I was given.  Never mind the fact that I had just given birth to our daughter a few months back, apparently it wasn't his responsibility.  Any wonder I didn't leave him then.

The next day Monday May 12th after a day of harassment from his dad and brother that he was a selfish jerk he showed up at home with a huge bouquet of flowers.  Sure I was happy to receive them but it was too little too late.  I knew exactly where I stood with him, bottom of the totem pole. Side note, he doesn't acknowledge his own mom so this is really no surprise.

So today as I write this, I've seen 14 mother's days and they are always met with trepidation.  My kids are 14 and 12 and though I know my son made something at school for me, which I will cherish as I always do the gifts they make I don't know about my daughter or if she even realises what this Sunday is.  Their dad hasn't asked what I would like from the kids for mother's day so I can guarantee you it's not his top priority.  It's not about the gifts I really don't need anything, a card would be nice and maybe a "Happy Mother's Day, Mom" from my kids. 


Last year my mother's day was not so great, I had a "text fight" with my daughter about not wanting to go for dinner with me (it was her dad's week last year) I don't even remember what they got me, I'm sure there was something, it's the fight I remember. 

The year before I got a Jasmine plant which is thankfully still alive in the front garden.  But as I said, it's not about the gifts for me it's about being recognised as a good mom, if only once a year. As my kids get older I would hope they realise this responsibility afterall it is only once a year right?

Every year I make sure I get my mom something, it may arrive a little late and some years it is just a card but I at least call her.  I talk to my mom pretty much every day thanks to my Rogers "My Five Canada" I call for free from my cell phone.  I'll call on Sunday and when they arrive for their visit on the 12th I'll give her a card and token of how much she means to me then, being a mom isn't easy we really should be appreciated all year long.

Don't get me wrong I know my kids love me.  My son tells me on a regular basis my daughter shows it in a different way.  She talks to me, and keeps me in her loop.  All I can ask from a teenager I suppose.  She's far more reserved and guarded more like her dad in that way.  My son wears his heart on his sleeve and has no problems giving me a hug and telling me "I love you mom".  That's the best gift ever!

So this mother's day I'm not going to remind my ex, if he remembers then great but all I really want is for my kids to be happy and if they remember, a kiss and a hug and a wish for a happy day would be great too.

With much love, light and Happy Mother's Day!
Tammy.