Recently there was an issue on facebook that was nothing more than a misunderstood comment. I had nothing to do with this, however it happened between family members and as these things tend to go, can cause division. I'm hoping it doesn't but I'm not in control.
The thing is the two individuals have made what might pass as 'peace' between them, but this has affected a few others who feel it necessary to defend each camp. Now, one of those camps I'm in by default because of my very close proximity to one of the parties. The other camp, while I really could care less if I know them or not, is closely related to people I do not want to be divided from. So, my dilemma is this. Do I play peace keeper as I usually do, or do I give the individual in the opposing camp a piece of my mind and let the cards fall were they may? I would really like to let this individual have it because they are completely mistaken in their assessment of the other individual and I really want to set them straight.
The problem is I don't really know the other person well enough to do this without causing a bigger problem, and the individuals I do not want to loose contact with are not on facebook and will only have one side of the story anyway, the other side. This is a very delicate situation and because there have been issues in the past with this particular part of the family I really don't want old wounds re-opened.
Admittedly when I saw the post of the individual who's camp I am a member of, I was angry and yes, I posted some strong words. I meant every last one of them, and I still do, now that I know who the offending party is, I must say I was shocked. And the reason for their upset, well they didn't get what they wanted from a third party, completely unrelated to the person I'm backing, and because my person said they were not surprised, but sorry to hear non the less, the individual thought they were being rude and insulting. How is that insulting?
You see, the individual in the other camp is young, and not that that should make a difference, I find the younger generation are very rude and spoilt and this particular individual is most definitely both. There is definitely a lack of respect for the older generation, and they feel entitled to have what would amount to a hissy fit because they didn't get what they wanted. And to take it out on someone who is sympathizing with them because they seem and easy target well, that's very immature.
The younger individual is well known, from birth to the Older individual and the older individual knows that the younger was very spoiled by one of their parents in fact to the point were their own sibling is extremely jealous because of the favoritism shown to the younger individual by their parent. Thus the temper tantrum when things went sideways from the expected out come. When the older individual commented on this the younger literally attacked. I have been privy to the messages that were sent, and what I hear from the younger side is very self indulgent. Also although the older individual apologized profusely the younger still made a point of being very disrespectful in there response, to which the older conceded and allowed the younger have the 'win'. This all in an attempt to quell the hurt feelings of a spoilt child.
I as a by stander, am appalled at what transpired, I was part of the original comment on facebook, and I didn't get a nasty message. I was thinking the exact same thing the older individual posted. I wasn't surprised at all either, and I was sorry to hear. However, I didn't post a comment. Good thing apparently.
Now, another issue that has come to light. Another member of my camp, has taken it upon themselves to send a very nasty message to the younger individual, with out consideration as to what that might do to our family as a whole. I understand the reasoning behind it, and I would have liked to do the same, but big picture, it's not my business. I am blogging because I have to get it out of my head. I need to let this go and this is my favourite way to do that.
If I had the opportunity to talk to the younger individual I would definitely give them a piece of my mind, tell them to get the stick out of their butt, learn to read and apologise for being so nasty. Oh, and grow up. But, it's not my fight and I don't want to be caught in the middle, so I stay out of it and hope that those in the other camp do the same. But knowing the other camp, they kinda like drama. So I'm not going to hold my breath.
I've extended the olive branch, and I hope it's accepted, only time will tell, and if the damage that has been done can be contained we will be ok. The sad part is the Innocent individuals who have nothing to do with this, yet will be directly affected by it. All because a spoilt brat didn't get what they wanted, and misunderstood something they read on facebook. Wow, boiled down, it is just semantics. What they were wanting to hear was said but not how they wanted to hear it. They didn't read further before passing judgement and now there is a mess to be cleaned up.
With much, love light and I hope you understand this,
Tammy.
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