Spin It Positive, Baby!

Recently I have been discussing the effects of negative thought on peoples lives, and this is what I've found.



For reasons beyond my comprehension there seem to be several negative people in my life. I am what you may call the consummate optimist. Being a Sagittarius and all. If you know anything about sun signs, Sages are the eternal optimists of the signs and we choose to see the world through rose coloured glasses. This is only true to an extent of course. There are always variables, but me, I like this descriptive and I run with it. Now, Cancers on the other hand, well, don't get me started. OK get me started.



There are three Cancers in my life that will doom and gloom you to death! WOW what a downer it can be to have a conversation with them. My sister, my dad and my partners mom, all three never have anything positive to say about anything. And complain! Yah they can do that in spades. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure they mean well, and they aren't nasty for the most part, but it can be really exhausting talking to them for any length of time. And don't try being happy about anything because they are sure to find some fault in your happiness. They certainly are a reality check though even if you're not looking for one.



Now, astrological signs aside there are those of use who would rather talk about all the bad things they have endured possibly because to them that is far more interesting than the good things right? WRONG! I think they are fishing for sympathy or maybe they just like to dwell on the negative, I've said it before I'll say it again, misery LOVES company. I try really hard not to fall victim to the poor me mentality. Those friends and love ones who only want to cry on your shoulder, over and over and over again. All right already, I get it, your life is crap. What are you going to do about it? Keep feeling sorry for yourself? Eventually you will run out of shoulders, and mine is soaked through so I need some drying time please.

Why not put a positive spin on it? What ever it is. I think about friends of mine who are fighting the worst possible fight you could imagine. Their son is battling, and winning I might add cancer for the third time. If I had even half the strength his mom has to keep a positive spin on this then I would be ever so grateful. This woman is truly an inspiration to everyone who knows her. I'm sure she has her moments but those are reserved for private, not public viewing. I aspire to be just like her when I grow up. We all should.

One thing that you might notice about positive people is that they look happy. And by that I mean they have a glow about them that makes you want to be in their company. The happiness that shows on their faces translates to a youthful appearance. I have had the pleasure of being thought of as younger than I actually am, and it was explained to me that when I'm happy and smiling I look young. I love that! I don't have frown lines because I don't frown. I laugh easily, and don't take myself too seriously. I know people who have aged themselves beyond their years with worry and negativity. This I know for a fact is true because when I'm having a bad or stressful day I look old and tired. We all do.

The worst part about being negative is when we try to justify it to excuse bad behaviour or hurtful behaviour. You chose how you deal with your baggage, why dump it on anyone else. Why not paint it pink put a bow on it and stick it on the top shelf of your closet were you need a chair to get at it. It still exists, it's just under control. Be happy, be positive, try looking at your world through rose coloured glasses, you will see it's the same just way better than you make it out to be. Do you have a roof over your head? Food in your cupboard? Enough money to pay the bills? They what on earth are you so miserable about? Now, if you don't have any of those things, you really need to ask yourself, why? What have you done in your life to put yourself in such a low place? Are you asking the right people for help?

My grandmother used to always say we should count our blessings, and she was right. We all have so much to be grateful for that being negative throws a big wet blanket over all those shinny things we have. I love being positive, I feel physically well, and spiritually lifted when I spin it positive. When I went through a dark time I was physically unwell and in pain, but it was a pain only I could cure with a change of attitude, and you know what I did and it worked. You can too.

With love, light and rose coloured glasses,
Tammy.