Wasn't that the song that Susan Boyle sang on England's Got Talent? The song that made her an overnight sensation? I wonder why she chose it, maybe she was tired of listening to someone moan and complain about how their life hadn't turned out as planned. Or maybe she was just really good at singing that particular song.
I'm singing that song these days, I'm listening to people whine and complain about how life isn't going as planned, how it's not fair, who ever, on the face of this planet lead you to believe life was or ever will be fair? Life is what WE make of it, it is our job to live out our days the best we can. We will make good and bad decisions and we will be faced with adversity and desperation. We will also be given the odd break, and win fall, and even then will we be satisfied? Some people are, others, the consummate whiners won't be. Why is that? I think it's because they are never satisfied. They set their standards so high no one will ever live up to them, and therefore will never truly satisfy these sorts. I know far too many individuals who will tell you they are the most caring compassionate loving people they know, yet, they tend to be the ones who are alone. Why? Because they are blind to their very own hypocrisy. They are the ones who destroy relationships, sabotage friendships and to what end? Because they are truly self centered and self serving. And the only way they are truly happy is if they are truly unhappy.
My life isn't perfect, I haven't attained all that I had hoped, but you know what, I'm grateful for what I have, and I'm happy with my decisions. Maybe that's the difference, maybe these types are just plain old un-grateful. You know that old adage, "you've made your own bed now you must lie in it" well these whiners think they are exempt. That some force beyond their control is toying with them making them so very unhappy. Bull-pucky! You are your own worst enemy for even thinking that way. It's your bed, no one elses.
I truly believe in the power of positive thought, and I try my darnedest to employ it on a daily basis, and to voice my gratitude as much as possible. When you put negative thoughts out there in the form of "oh poor me" then you know what you get back, "oh poor you". Suck it up princess and get a grip. There are people in this world I would love to shake some sense into, but I can tell you right now, they will not agree, they need it. They are so oblivious as to how exhausting it is for man kind to listen to them moan and carry on like only their problems matter. It's toxic and likely the cause for the hole in to ozone layer. All kidding aside, they are a toxic bunch and can actually make others physically ill with their negativity.
God forbid, you tell one of these people this, not only will they vehemently deny it, but probably be offended that you would think such a thing of them. After all, lets not forget in their minds, they are the greatest people they know. The really toxic ones though, will fain false modesty in order to win sympathy. They are the wolves in sheep's clothing, the veritable snakes in the grass.
So what do you do? Well, for a while, you may offer a sympathetic ear, but that gets old really fast, and if you're not that invested in the individual you may be able to just walk away. However if you are truly a kind and compassionate soul then you may have a harder time letting them know you're no longer interested in wasting your valuable time and energy on them and well, give them the "it's me, not you" excuse. Which only empowers then further. Next time, be blunt, let them know exactly why your not going to listen to them whine anymore. Maybe that's the shaking they need to snap them out of their self induced misery.
In my lifetime here on this planet, I hope to help those individuals who are sucking the energy out of others realise the errors of their ways, and open their eyes to reality so they may step out of the fantasy world they live in and stop whining about how life is soooo unfair and oh why me and take charge of the life they were handed and make the most of it. You only have one life (if that's what you believe) so treat it like gold, it's precious and it's yours. Stop whining and get on with it. Stop crying your river of tears, get your head out of your butt, and just live!
With much love, light and a wonderful life,
Tammy.
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